Sunday, 8 February 2009

About Spanish Men... Desmystifying the image of the Latin Lover

If any of you out there have ever had the fantasy of a Latin lover... let me just demystify the notion of it.

I know books, songs and movies, and lately Antonio Banderas have a lot to do with the image some have created in their minds about what a Latin lover is or does. But reality can be, and is, quite the opposite!

Since Rudolph Valentino, Latin lovers haven't changed a bit. They still beat women and treat them like objects, really! Everyday I see on the news a new victim of their machismo, and it seems there isn't anything that can be done to stop it. There is no romance when there still is a double standard. It is ok if is the man that goes out at night with his friends, and comes late... or early in the morning, no questions asked. But if it is the woman who does it... well, it is a very different story. The least it will happen, is she will find her pajamas on the sofa, along with her pillow! The worst can easily go from finding the door bolted and impenetrable, to all her belongings in the street... if not death in the worst case scenarios!

The funniest happens after a brake-up. Just like in the movie with the same name, you still have to tolerate each other cause neither party wants to move out. Women are more civilized when it comes to that. Men on the other hand, don't take it as easy as you would think they would. They can tell you they don't love you anymore, they can tell you it is over, but they will also tell you they are not jealous if you go out and come home late... but they will want to know every detail about your little escapade. So, you'll better have your story straight! Fortunately, it is easy to turn them around... Let's face it, we are better liars than them! If they do anything they weren't supposed to do, they will come home with flowers or some sort of a gift they would never give you if not out of pure and sheer plain guilt! Thus, they are always gonna be caught infraganti! Besides, they will always start giving explanations without been asked to give them... and that my friends, is a dead giveaway!

I can only feel amused by the things men will be willing to do or say, just to deny they aren't in love anymore... In some cases it might be true, but when it comes to Latin lovers, it is impossible to let go. Once you've been owned by one of them, you'll always be their property. No matter what you do, no matter how far away you go, they will always feel you have betrayed them!

Tonight I was lucky! I just found my pajamas and sleepers in the living room. My pillows and my iPod over the sofa! Tomorrow, who knows what it will happen! Cause no matter how much a man thinks I am some kind of an object that can be owned, I will never cease to be who I am... my own woman, my own person!

I wonder, what will he want to know in the morning??? lol

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